Friendzone…a lighter term for rejection

One thing about having friends of the opposite gender is the fact that, the more time you spend with them, the easier it is to be attracted to them. I believe that your lover must be your friend, therefore my guy friends are potential boyfriends to me (Well, not all of them). Lately, I realised how most of my guy friends I know were friendzoned, laughing at them I didn’t know that I will sooner fall in the same trap. Now, not that I go around asking my guy friends out, but every woman loves getting attention and the more I got attention from a gentle brother, the more I saw him as potential and I was attracted.

Now, it’s frustrating to like someone, it’s even worse as a woman to be attracted to a guy friend because all you have to do is wait like an old lady at the bus stop and “hope” he says the right words next time he sees you. What’s more frustrating is he might not ever say those words to you.

It’s easy to be friendzoned, one needs to be aware of the trap. These are some of the things that will get you friendzoned:

• You do everything for the person. You go to dates with them; you make them your partner at any event you are invited to; you take them for dinner; etc.
• (S)he is the only person you chat to most in all your friends. You even have late night chats.
• (S)he shares with you all his/her problems that (s)he ends up depending on you for solution and prayer.
• You are always available for them.
• You become their Oprah/ Steve Harvey. Always giving them advices, they use those advises to pursue someone else.

All the above will easily get you friendzoned by the person you were sure you are winning their heart by doing the above. See, one thing the Y-generation seems to do is, we play it safe. We enjoy the benefits of a relationship without being in a relationship. Hence, it’s simple for a lady to be dined every weekend by different guy friends and still proclaim she did not mislead anyone! She was just hooking up with “him”. It’s also very simple for a guy to be giving attention to more than one lady and enjoy the benefits of a relationship, while the ladies are being emotionally attached. Guys love ladies who are available, they fall in love with the thought of having you as a girlfriend, but what’s really the point of being in a relationship with you if you are already giving him all those benefits.