What’s Next?

Two months ago I read a Facebook update that said “Why must I get married? I mean after getting married, what’s next?” as much as he was denouncing the institution of marriage and not really sold out in marriage (which that’s his choice) I was very interested in the latter part of his Facebook post.

Everything we do has what’s next we always ask ourselves because as human beings (I don’t think animals or other beings read my blog), while we still alive, we just don’t want to exist until we die but desire to live our lives to the fullest! Human as we are, we all have this thing in us that pushes us to desire to achieve something in life, achieve something for ourselves that we can be proud of.

So…

• After your honours qualification, what’s next?
• You are married, what’s next
• You are in senior position in your career, what’s your next move?
• You launched your company with 300 employees, what’s next?
• You finally got the job title you’ve always dreamed of in an organisation you desired to work for since you started your career, what’s next?

The reason why we have a lot of unhappy people who have done so well in life that their lives can be envied, it’s because people are not content. They achieve things so they can be seen with a certain crowd. When they do make it in that particular crowd, they realise it’s not what they expected and continue to seek for things that they believe will make them feel they have arrived. We never arrive. We never stop evolving and we never arrive in life because there’s always more.

Before you go on a journey to make something of yourself, start first by knowing you are already someone. Know your worth and whose you are. It is always important to know and believe that you don’t need nothing more to make you a better person. That will prevent you suffering from superiority complexity.

“The superiority complex is one of the ways that a person with an inferiority complex may use as a method of escape from her/his difficulties. (S)he assumes that (s)he is superior when (s)he is not, and this false success compensates her/him for the state of inferiority which (s)he cannot bear. The normal person does not have a superiority complex, (s)he does not even have a sense of superiority. (S)he has the striving to be superior in the sense that we all have ambition to be successful; but so long as this striving is expressed in work it does not lead to false valuations, which are at the root of mental disease.”